Let’s talk about love. More importantly how a few tweaks around the home can help fire up your love life, whether you’ve been single for a while or you’re like extra married, either way, I know you can benefit from a little extra lovin’, we all can, am I right?. Come with me, I want to share with you a story about how some simple tools can help you receive the love that you’ve been craving.
Now the tools I want to show you come to us through feng shui. Let me tell you a little secret about harnessing the magic of feng shui and using that power to fix your life. Firstly, anyone can use feng shui, it doesn’t take years of study, stay with me for a sec, because by the time you finish reading this you will have some actionable steps that you can take today to improve your relationships by Valentine’s Day. That’s right I said it, by Valentine’s Day.
So before we dive too deep into the how-to’s I want to remind you of the most simple and most important part of this implementation. Give what you want. That’s right, give what you want. You want love, you give that shit away. Why? Because when you’re stingy with your love, guess what? You’re sending a mighty message to the universe that says Love is finite. But that’s a lame and narrow approach to love. Love is abundant, Love is always replenished, you can not overdraw the love bank by giving too much of it away. Let me be real clear here, love is not a currency. Be very careful and self-aware here because getting transactional with your love and affection will never end well, never.
That’s right, I promised you a story, we got a little sidetracked, but here we go… So I had this friend who lived in a teeny-weenie house. Her bedroom in fact was so tiny there was barely enough room to shove a single bed against the wall. So she did just that, she shoved her bed all the way against the wall. She had one single nightstand and only one small lamp. Now when I came to her house I could immediately tell that her relationship troubles were not being helped at all by this arrangement. Why?. Her physical space was screaming at the top of its lungs, “I am single, I am so fucking single”. The arrangement of her room didn’t create space for a partner. She was sending a super clear message to the universe that said, “I don’t have space for a relationship”. Holding space for a partner in your home and your heart is crucial.
Now if you spoke with her she would adamantly lament about how difficult her dating life was and how she had been on dating apps for years with no solid relationships to speak of and how desperately she craved the connection from a partner. Luckily I feng shuied the shit out of that bedroom and wouldn’t you know it? Not two weeks later she had a very steady man suiter.
So you’re probably wondering what the hell I did to her space to coax out such remarkable results? First, we addressed the floor plan. We had to find a place for her bed that could accommodate two nightstands and two reading lamps. That was non-negotiable. What we ended up doing was taking over the closet space and placing the bed into the nook of the closet. This made a very romantic awning over her bed. We enhanced the vibes of the space with rich textiles and twinkle lights and created a very sensual and romantic atmosphere.
Take A Look At Your Bed
Now let’s talk about you and what you can do to improve your love life. First, take a real good look at your bed. When’s the last time you splurged on new bedding, a super plush mattress pad? Maybe you can dress your bed up with some new sexy sheets? Also, look for balance here. You want everything in twos. Two nightstands, two lamps, pictures with two’s. This is not a place to hang a picture of your favorite rockstar. This is a place to place symbols of love, and symbols of love in pairs. Two hearts hung on the wall over the bed, yes! One single heart, nope, not so much. Everything around the bed should send a clear message that you are ready to give love, freely, generously, and without conditions.
There’s another huge piece to this that can’t be skipped. This step is absolutely vital, self-love. If you don’t love yourself how can you ever expect others to love you? Ditch the shame, ditch the body image shit and step into loving yourself and your body. Just step into it. Can you feel it? Can you? Alright good good good.
Here are your action steps- do you have to do them all? Absolutely not. Pluck the ones that speak to you.
Your Action Steps
- Love yourself
- Be generous with your love- give what you want to receive
- Balance the left side of your bed with the right side, 2 nightstands two lamps, etc.
- Burn scented candles with intention of attracting love
- Incorporate triangle shapes into your bedroom or your love Bagua
- Place things in pairs- a pair of candlesticks, a picture of two people
- Heart symbols things that say “love”
- The color red or pink
- Clear all clutter from under and around your bed
- Clean out your underwear drawer- ditch those period panties
- Buy new bedding
- Place a pair of sexy underwear underneath your fitted sheet
- Paint two pink triangles above your bed